{"id":3297,"date":"2021-03-20T21:00:50","date_gmt":"2021-03-20T21:00:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.stefanhammel.com\/blog\/?p=3297"},"modified":"2020-02-11T18:44:07","modified_gmt":"2020-02-11T18:44:07","slug":"story-when-you-meet-your-brother","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.stefanhammel.com\/blog\/2021\/03\/20\/3297\/","title":{"rendered":"When You Meet Your Brother\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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The\nthought experiment \u201cWhen You Meet Your Brother\u201d is an intervention which can be\nused for patients with suicidal tendencies. The patient\u2019s family structures and\nthe values of both the patient and any predeceased family members are used as a\nbasis for demonstrating that life is worth living. This prevents \u201ccopycat\ndeaths\u201d and utilises the patient\u2019s bond with these individuals by hypothesising\nwhat they would think about the planned suicide.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The\ndialogue can alternatively be used with individuals who are (or feel)\nresponsible for the death of another person.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The living person can ask questions or offer apologies, while the deceased person provides a fictitious (but often realistic) opinion on what is said. In my experience the deceased are kind-hearted, and the outcome of such a dialogue is almost always (with the possible exception of murders) that the deceased denies any guilt on the part of the individual who is still living, or forgives him or her. If an outcome of this kind cannot be achieved, the therapist should mediate between the two sides \u2013 one fictitious and one real \u2013 in order to ensure that each side has the best possible opinion of the other, for example using methods from systemic counselling, family constellation therapy, Gestalt therapy or ego state therapy. Interventions of this kind can also be used to travel to heaven or another meeting point to say farewell to an individual <\/em>\u2013 or a pet <\/em>\u2013 in cases where a final farewell was impossible before their death.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you\u2019re on the other side, and have escaped this\nworld \u2013 a world I can see you\u2019re eager to leave \u2013 and when, after arriving, you\nmeet your mother and say, \u201cHello Mum, I\u2019m here already! I decided to catch an\nearlier train, as you might say,\u201d what will she reply? What questions will she\nask? And when you meet your brother, who died before you, how will he greet\nyou? What will you tell him, and how will you answer him?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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