story “The Price of Success” illustrates a way of freeing oneself from the
mental blocks which may arise if an inner voice categorically prohibits failure
and thus makes it impossible to take potentially worthwhile risks. The story
asks the listener to come to terms with the idea of failure through the
realisation that it can be regarded as honourable; the price of success is
always the possibility of failure.
When Mr Gundolf was asked for the secret of his
success, he answered, “Before every new venture I weighed up the price of failure.
I agreed with myself that this was the price I would pay if it came to it,
without beating myself up. Then I weighed up the price of success and got
story “Exam Revision” outlines one way in which students can mentally prepare
themselves for the task of revision. In order to learn effectively, it is often
useful to start by asking questions and to provide the unconscious with an
overview of the unknown territory so that it can create an internal map into
which the answers to these questions can later be slotted. It is also useful to
distinguish between central and peripheral content before tackling the main
task of revision.
A man once had only five months’ time to revise for an
important exam, even though he knew that most other students spent twelve or
eighteen months revising for it, and even then many failed and had to
resit. How could he do all the necessary work in such a short time?
He gathered together the books he needed to study, and
started off by reading the indexes at the end of the books again and again over
several days. He wondered to himself what all the technical and foreign terms could
mean, thought up explanations for them and asked himself which chapters would
feature them most frequently. Then he examined the tables of contents, learned
them off by heart and thought about how the books were structured. After that
he read all the sections of the books printed in bold or italics, and the
introductions and summaries for each chapter. He tried to work out where the
key messages, explanations and supplementary information could be found in each
book. Finally he returned to the indexes. After spending a few days like this
he began to revise in the conventional fashion, and passed the exam at his
story “You’ll Manage It” can be used to counteract negative suggestions which
may be self-fulfilling, and to build positive expectations.
On 19 June 1964, Martin’s class teacher was
writing reports. In Martin’s report she wrote, “Martin’s achievements are
entirely satisfactory, but he would achieve much more if he did not suffer from
such severe behavioural problems. He is tense and unfocused, has no
self-confidence and often appears to be terrified. He must find a more orderly
way of working.”
On 16 June 2008, Martin was talking to eight
children in a psychiatric outpatients’ clinic. “When I was your age,” he said, “I
had hardly any friends. The other children teased me and laughed at me. The
teacher wrote in my report, ‘He will fail because of his inability to apply
himself and to behave himself.’ She was wrong – I made a success out of my
life. You’ll manage it too.”
who is “different” to the other people in his or her life will find that there
is always a price to pay as well as rewards to be reaped. A patient suffering
in this respect can be asked whom he or she would rather resemble or be if this
were possible, and what would be gained and lost from such a swap. It often
becomes clear that the individual is different for a good reason, and that
there is a value in remaining so.
“I’m different to all the others.” “Do you want the
others to be different?” “If the others were different, I’d want to be the
same, but as they’re all the same, I’d rather be different.”
isolation of an individual, a couple or a group of people from the rest of
society can lead to serious psychological and social damage, and a certain
degree of openness is required before healing can happen. The symptoms caused
by isolation often isolate the victim yet further, but social and psychological
succour can be provided by considerate friends and helpers who open up the way
to a better life. The story “The Cardboard Box Dressing” contains an implied
request to take the plunge into a new openness which will hopefully bring
The graze on his thigh kept on becoming inflamed. “No
wonder,” he thought to himself, “My trousers are rubbing on it.” He put a
dressing on the wound, but even though the trousers were no longer rubbing on
it, the skin was still inflamed. “It’s because no air can get to it,” explained
a friend. But what was he supposed to do, walk around in his underwear?
He applied another dressing, but this time he placed a
small cardboard box underneath it, with the open side pointing inwards towards
his thigh. Now air could get to the wound, but nothing was rubbing against it.
The inflammation subsided on the very same day.
the Dragon” encourages children to be aware of the harm caused by their own
violence, to use their power carefully, to accept themselves as lovable, to
discover their talents, to win back former friends and to find new ones.
Gregor the dragon huffed and puffed away to himself, feeling sad and angry. He had been looking for someone to play with all day long, but no one wanted to play with him. He had asked the fox whether he would like to play, but the fox had replied, “No way! You’ll only burn our skin and hair again with your fiery breath.” The badger, the hare and the bear had said the same when he had asked them. And yet he had not meant to burn their fur – it had just happened. At least most of the time. As Gregor the dragon sat there and brooded, a tear rolled down his cheek and fell with a small plop to the ground. The owl Laila, who – like all owls – had excellent hearing and was very wise, was sitting high up in the tree. “What kind of a plop was that?” she asked herself. “It sounded like the noise a dragon’s tear would make.” And she peered out to see, since it’s not every day that you see a dragon crying. “Why are you crying, dragon?” she asked. “None of the animals want to play with me. They say it’s because I burned their fur. But I didn’t mean to,” answered Gregor. “What should I do?” Laila scratched her head. “You want to do them good instead of doing them harm, but it will take a long time until they believe that. It will take the whole day and perhaps even the whole night, and maybe even longer until they can trust you again. Why don’t you start with me?” said the owl, flying down and landing on Gregor’s shoulder. “Tell me some stories about dragons!” And so Gregor began to tell the owl stories about dragons, and there were so many exciting stories that it took a very long time for him to tell them all… The forest creatures heard him in the distance, and their curiosity forced them to come a little closer and then yet closer still in order to catch every word of the dragon’s enthralling stories. The dragon’s voice grew quieter and calmer, and the other creatures came even closer. Night fell, and the temperature with it. The owl nuzzled into the dragon’s neck, which was lovely and warm thanks to the dragon fire smouldering within. Many hours went by, and when the sun came up next morning, it bathed in its rays a group of animals huddled closely around the dragon, enjoying the warmth which he radiated. And Gregor was still telling dragon stories
case study “Time Adjustment” demonstrates an intervention for adjusting one’s
perception of time when interacting with people who live life at a slower pace,
in order to respond in a patient and relaxed manner.
Today I was chatting to an old man who spoke very
slowly. He kept on pausing while he searched for the right word, and many of
his sentences were left unfinished. The man couldn’t help it, but I could feel
myself becoming impatient and even angry at the slow pace of the conversation.
So I imagined a dial which I could turn to adjust how quickly or slowly I
perceived time; within less than a minute, the man seemed to be talking at an
entirely normal pace, and since he was no longer too slow, all my impatience
story “A Desire for Life” highlights the fact that strong family relationships
play a vital role in an individual’s health and his or her will to go on
living. People tend to want either to live in a tribe or not to live at all,
and the majority of suicides and attempted suicides are a result of isolation
and loneliness. Similarly, some people only survive an illness because of the
presence of loving relatives.
I meet patients at the hospital where I work who want
to die even though they are relatively healthy, who hope that they will not
wake up after an operation or who ask me to kill them.
I meet other patients who are trying with all their
strength to conquer their illness even though the doctors have told them that
this is impossible, or patients trying to extend their lives by just a few
weeks even though they are in terrible pain and have no hope of recovery.
Again and again I meet desperately unhappy people who
are almost healthy, and people who are full of the joys of life and yet are
close to death. The difference between them is that those in the first group
have no one caring for them, whereas those in the second group have partners,
children, grandchildren and friends who care for them with love and affection.
A desire for life is a desire to live for someone else.
story “The Shoelace Debate” illustrates how unsolicited advice (whether direct
or indirect) can provoke resistance, and how other interventions are often more
“Your shoelaces are trailing on the ground,” my father
said to me yesterday as we were strolling around the garden. “Yes,” I replied. “You
look ridiculous,” he said. “Ah well,” I answered. “You might trip over them,”
he said. “I might do many things…” I pondered. He carried on nagging for a
long time, before finally concluding, “Giving children advice is a good way of
making sure they won’t do what you want them to do – in fact they’ll generally
do the opposite. My mother would often remind me that my favourite TV show was
on soon. I knew that it would start before long and I wanted to watch it, but
my mother’s reminders annoyed me so much that I didn’t watch it at all. My father
rarely gave us advice. He was a wise man.” We looked into the pond and thought
of my father’s father while gazing at the reflections of the sky and the clouds
in the water.
aphorism in the story “Love of Cats” reminds the listener that love involves
seeing the world from the perspective of whomever you love, and in order to do
so it is necessary to spend time carefully and respectfully observing his or
her individual thoughts and lifestyle. It is useful to distinguish between what
the other party actually wants and what I might want if I were him or her. When
direct questioning is impossible (in the case of young children, individuals
with a mental disability, coma patients, people suffering from aphasia or
people who speak a different language, for example), careful observation of
non-verbal reactions is generally helpful.
A friend once asked me, “If cat owners only want the
best for their pets, why can you buy venison-flavoured cat food and yet you can’t
buy mouse-flavoured cat food?”
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